The myths people believe about homosexuality (Part I)

24 Apr

When it comes to homosexuality everyone with an opinion is an expert. At least it seems that way. I have always found it both odd and humorous that many of the “experts” on what gay people are, or what makes us gay are in fact straight. To be perfectly honest I have no idea under the sun why I was born lesbian and neither do any doctors to a definitive degree. Yet the answer to that and many other questions if not outright myths are floated as fact everyday through almost every imaginable venue.

Of current importance seems to be the argument of nature or nurture when it comes to determining if a person is born gay or chooses to be gay. From a personal perspective I have to say it is an inborn trait. I say this because before I ever knew what gay or straight was I knew what I liked, and I liked girls. I had no concept of this being viewed as wrong by anyone, I to this day still can’t conceive of why anyone does. From a medical standpoint brain mapping homosexual persons has shown clear and predictable variation to the hypothalmus of LGBT persons. The easiest way to dispel the myth that people choose to be gay is to ask yourself if people choose to be straight? If you have a certain sexual orientation can you just choose to change it at a whim? Furthermore as sexual identity is formed before we even have any idea what it is, can we therefore consciously choose what ours will be?

Another myth is that gay men are effeminate and and lesbians are masculine. How this myth persists is beyond me. Sure television has portrayed certain characters as over the top fitting the stereotype for entertainment value, but more often than not they are portrayed accurately. Yes there are some effeminate gay men and some butch lesbians in the LGBT community. It is also true there are some effeminate men and butch women in the straight community. it isn’t uncommon for people to view anyone too femme or butch as being queer with no foundation of proof cementing the myth in their mind.

Gay men are generally employed in careers regarded as “women’s” work. Of course there are some who are, I thank god my hairdresser is! For the most part though gay men choose their career path the same as anyone else, they find something they are good at and enjoy which will support them. Gay men are in every walk of employment from entertainment to the military and have been forever. Likewise lesbians are not all mechanics and carpenters holding jobs in fields viewed as male. The fact is you may find gay accountant doing your taxes, a lesbian doctor suturing your wounds, or a bisexual pharmacist filling your prescription. Gay and lesbian people are not limited to their career choices by their sexual preference.

Another widely held myth is that all transsexuals or transgender people in general are gay. More often than not you will find the bulk of these people are in fact straight. They do not as many people believe pursue a surgical resolution to their condition to become straight and eschew being gay. They simply want to feel congruous mind and body. Gender identity and sexual preference are completely unrelated issues yet this myth persists.

Gay men are predators. The fact is there are far more straight men convicted both as a whole and by percentage of predatory same sex crimes than gay men. This myth persists because it is assumed every time a boy is molested it must be by a gay man trolling for victims. According to the FBI this is untrue as in most cases it is a family member or family friend perpetrating these acts and that they are in fact most often straight but looking for a controlling element in the relationship. Psychologist further theorize these people choose their victims on availability, not sex, making a girl just as likely to be the victim of these predators if conveniently available. Television and slanted news reporting has however continued to ride this myth for ratings not allowing the truth of the matter to come out.


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