Arguments for and against gay marriage

24 Jan

The idea that gay marriage is something which needs to be confronted is saddening. While their is no denying it needs to be addressed, the word confrontation puts a very different spin on the issue, as if it were spanking a child that misbehaved and needs punishment. With so many different personal beliefs, conflicting laws that vary in some cases by nothing more than a matter of a few miles, and the ever present issue of religion, the subject of gay marriage is touchy at best.

As much as it kills some people to realize gay marriage is really something very few people feel the need to confront. For the most part people have reached a point in which they are fed up hearing about it. If you examine the prevailing attitude of most industrialized nations gay marriage is no odder anymore than heterosexual marriage. Even in the U.S. it has reached a point where people are taking a live and let live attitude which is perfectly understandable and in all honesty the correct stance to take.

It is not only rude, but narrow minded as well to use ones own personal faith based beliefs to argue that two people who are in love that are consenting adults don’t have the right to marry. It is the epitome of arrogant to assume one faith is better than another or even correct just because it has many followers. Trying to impose that will upon others is unabashed arrogance. While some point out gay marriage is against God, that argument only holds water at a minimal level at best if the gay couple believes in the same god. Therefore confronting gay marriage on a religious basis is fundamentally flawed as it only works if every single person in the world believes in the same God without dispute. That will never happen, so this religious argument should never come up.

Confronting gay marriage from the legal standpoint is an even easier argument to win. If a person is an adult and has done nothing which causes them to lose their legal rights, they then should be afforded full equality under the law. While people love to argue marriage is a sacred institution, which it can be for some in their own way, at it’s base it is a legal contract. Without a government issued marriage license, marriage is nothing more than two people living together “in sin” whether a religious figurehead has consecrated it or not. This is an issue of basic human rights.

The second favorite legal argument people love to use to confront gay marriage is that while marriage is protected under the Constitution, gay marriage is not. This is a rubbish argument. Interracial marriage was not fully legally recognized in the U.S. until 1967, and the same argument used against gay marriage was used against interracial marriage; the Constitution. As anyone that has advanced beyond the 7th grade in the U.S. is aware of, the Constitution is considered a living document which is to be challenged and amended to meet the needs of the people it represents. If this was not true there wouldn’t be 27 amendments to it.

Finally the social issue must be addressed once again from a slightly different angle. Regardless of a persons perception of gay people or them being wed, who is to say what is right for another adult that is of age and sound mind? How many people opposed to gay marriage would be willing to stand up in front of those gay couples and look them in the eye and explain why they personally believe those couples and individuals are inferior to them and therefore do not deserve the same rights they them self enjoy? I am willing to bet the number is very low and that a fair portion of people that were initially willing would stop well before the task is done.

Denying the rights to any human who has done nothing more than be born as a person attracted to the same sex is atrocious. The issue of gay marriage isn’t what really needs to be confronted, it is the people that oppose it which need to be confronted so they can explain why they believe as they do face to face with they people they are all too pleased to segregate as second class. If that were happen a little more often, gay marriage wouldn’t need to be confronted, it would be a law so that no person need feel the guilt of being a party to what is little more than legalized discrimination.

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